Do you have any idea on how many books are written for women on dating do’s and don’ts? Neither do I actually. Although, with a little time I am sure Supermom could figure it out! These people are making a fortune! What are we all doing so wrong, and what of all the conflicting advice, or is this some crazy marketing scheme to keep us all buying? Ladies, if you are purchasing these materials, I suggest some stock in Barnes and Noble.
A little bit ago, I spent the most wonderfully lazy Saturday with a good friend of mine. I need to give her a really good “alter ego” name because I reference her quite often in my blogs. She is someone I have known almost my whole life, whose advice I truly value if sometimes only for the comedic value! Anyhow, we had such a nice day just hanging around, drinking coffee and talking. It was during one of these conversations that I expressed my frustration in not being able to understand all the conflicting signals I had been getting from some guys I had been seeing.
She had quite a bit to say on this subject. After a minute or two she went into her office and came out with “reference” material on the subject.
The Reference Guide is a very in depth analysis on the subject matter with plenty of “research” and case study test data to back up the findings put forth in the book. I would recommend this as a required tool to anyone in the dating community. This book was so successful in breaking down the subject matter; it was made into a movie titled “He’s Just Not That into You”.
I had seen this movie a while back and thought it was cute and funny. I believed the women portrayed in it a little overdone. Come on, do women really act this ridiculous or are they overdramatizing common dating mistakes to make a point and sell the movie? While I don’t think I have gone to the extreme of some of the characters in the film, I have to admit, I am confused by all conflicting signals I have gotten and have been that girl looking at my phone wondering. Ugh! Yeah, hard to admit, but I am sure I am not alone. Anyway, as I accepted the book from my friend with a smile, I was secretly thinking, “How the hell is this supposed to help me?”
Holy shit! It’s my new bible! I have referred back to this book so many times I think I may need to buy my friend a new copy! While I don’t think I quite fit the description of some of the sad, pathetic girls shown in the book, I have learned quite a bit and am getting really good at walking away. Because really, I don’t care what shit you have going on in your head, if you can’t be bothered, why should I spend another second? He’s just not into me. And you know what, that’s okay. It’s certainly better than carrying on and investing more time to find this same info out three months from now. I am single, out there, and pretty fucking cool if I do say so myself, so moving on. Someone out there is bound to appreciate my awesomeness. (I did say I liked Barney from How I Met your Mother.) Until then, I have great friends to annoy and so much material for this blog.
Really though, it does help. For now, I am having some fun reading and “doing research” ;)
I still don’t understand sometimes why a guy will ask me to go out again, just to blow me off. He could very easily just say, “Hey this was fun, see you later.” Don’t ask me what my schedule is and if we can do this again next week. Whatever, the change has been in me. Now, instead of wondering what the heck happened, I just think, well, he’s just not into me. He’s clearing the path and getting out of the way for someone who is. So, for what it’s worth, thanks!
